About the Curtis Yarvin "New Yorker" Profile

I always hated the dark elf post, and said so at the time

Yesterday, a profile of my ex-fiancé Curtis Yarvin was published by The New Yorker, and I was quoted in it. I have numerous thoughts about how this article turned out. I will try to concisely cover the most important elements.

For years, I have been stuck between a rock and a hard place, in terms of how I talk publicly about Curtis. He is, of course, my legal coparent, and has partial custody of my toddler, so there’s that. Curtis is also quite wealthy and litigious.

Therefore, I am extremely constrained. While truth is a defense against defamation lawsuits in the United States, it’s easy to come up with an excuse to file a defamation lawsuit, and getting hit by a lawsuit can destroy a person, even if the lawsuit is blatantly unfair. I know this on a visceral level from when Curtis pressed his previous lawsuit against me; I had to marshal everything I had to fight that lawsuit immediately after giving birth to Curtis’s son; the process resulted in severe stress-induced health complications, among other problems. Maybe I will get my legal fees back eventually, but I am not currently under the impression that anything resembling justice exists for how people like Curtis exploit the legal system.

Additionally, things often work out badly for people who go on the record. Often, it isn’t worth going on the record with a reporter unless you have a really clear sense of what you want to communicate, or some other specific and well-thought-out reason. For this reason and others, I’ve rejected many requests to do so over the last few years.